As the holiday season draws near, the world seems to sparkle with joy—twinkling lights, cheerful music, and warm gatherings. Yet for many older adults, the season can feel quiet, cold, and deeply lonely. Loved ones may live far away, traditions may have faded, and the empty chair at the holiday table can speak louder than carols on the radio.
Loneliness and isolation are more than passing emotions—they are real challenges that affect the body, mind, and spirit. But even in the stillness, there is hope. And in the quiet, there is God.
The Silent Struggle
For some older adults, the holiday season brings memories more than moments—echoes of laughter from the past rather than new voices in the present. As families grow and scatter, and as time reshapes traditions, many find themselves on the sidelines of celebrations they once hosted.
This sense of invisibility can be painful. Yet, it is in these tender moments that faith can become the most powerful presence.
Emmanuel—God with Us
The Christmas story begins in a quiet place. Not in the grandeur of a palace, but in a lowly manger. The message of the season is not one of noise and crowds—but of presence. The name of Jesus, Emmanuel, means God with us. And not just with the young, the busy, and the joyful—but with all of us, in every season of life.
Psalm 71:9 reminds us, “Do not cast me away when I am old; do not forsake me when my strength is gone.” God’s promise is eternal and God’s presence does not fade with age. The wisdom and depth of faith in older adulthood can be a guiding light to others during this sacred time.
Ways to Reconnect
If you or someone you know is feeling isolated this season, these small steps can bring warmth and reconnection:
• Reach out to someone. A phone call, handwritten card, or even a prayer shared over the phone can remind someone—and yourself—that you are not alone.
• Reignite a tradition. Bake a favorite recipe, listen to hymns, or light an Advent candle each night. Rituals help ground the soul and awaken joy.
• Lean into your faith community. Churches often have seasonal services, visits, or volunteer opportunities that can foster connection.
• Reflect and give thanks. Keeping a gratitude journal or reading Scripture daily can open the heart to God’s enduring goodness.
A Season of Purpose
Older adults are not forgotten by God—and they must not be forgotten by us. Your life is a testimony. Your experiences are sacred. You carry stories that hold generations together, and your faith is a gift that still has much to offer.
This holiday season, let’s remind one another that loneliness is not the final word. Love is. Connection is. And above all, God is.
May you find hope in the quiet, strength in your faith and the comforting presence of Emmanuel—God with you—this Christmas and always.
John Rivas, MA, MRE, CFRE, HDP is ENCORE Ministry Foundation’s Executive Director. Contact him at jrivas@encoreministry.org.